their hangout spot

There is an almost-empty kitchen cabinet that the girls love to play in/fight over. I send them an incredibly mixed message about whether or not they can play in it. On the days they play happily and quietly with it, I encourage them to stay there. On the days they pinch each others' fingers in the door or blockade a sister and make her scream, I declare "it's not a toy!" and send them elsewhere.

Bad parenting, I know...I know.